Mon, 20 November 2017
Think back to the last time you had an outing with a friend or significant other. What did you do prior to actually spending time with them?
Did you give them a vague idea of what you'd be doing? Did you tell them that your visit could happen whenever you felt like it? Did you show up to your outing without any expectations of how things would be going?
If you're the average person, the answer is most likely a no. You and I understand the importance of planning when it comes to major events.
Similarly, you need to apply the same type of careful planning to major lifestyle changes as you do to visits with friends or dates with significant others.
Only through planning, goals, and expectations will you be able to transition into the type of lifestyle that you have dreamed about.
#1. Categorizing Your Lifestyle Goals
Josh and I have been playing with a system to bring meaning and purpose to our lives called "Project Life" - working title. It is something that we love doing and we do it every single day. We have this weekly and monthly check in. And later this month we are doing a quarterly check in and we are doing that as an away weekend. It is something I hope to release as a program or app in 2018.
We've drawn on other tools like my personal favorite Zig Ziglars Wheel of Life that helps you to achieve a more balanced lifestyle of your choosing.
Ziglar’s Wheel consists of 7 different sections that include the following:
We may not realize it yet but the way in which we approach our lives can be entirely unbalanced.
For example, someone who is fulfilled in their career may be devoting every available minute towards working but they may be deeply suffering in the family aspect of their lives.
Another person may be at peak health but could have absolutely no social life.
We are each unique and there is always an area in which we could improve. Take a look at the categories above and make a list of things you would like to do in that area.
The actions don't have to be large in order to make an impact. A goal in the financial area could be as simple as saving $10 by the end of the month or $100,000 by the end of the year.
However, you need to be sure that the goal you set is realistic. If you never work out, you can't expect yourself to lose 50 pounds over the course of a month.
Plan based on your habits, personality, and motivation to accomplish your goal.
#2. Tasking It Out
It's great to have goals but it's better to have actionable steps that you can take to be able to reach those goals.
Let's pretend that one of your goals is to lose 20 pounds over the next 3 months. It's a great goal and it's realistic. However, how are you going to get there?
This is where you need to further specify your goal and map out your actions. A sample might look like this:
Once you feel as though you have sufficiently come up with all of the actions you can take to reach your goal, you can write them down and look at them daily to start incorporating these important habits into your day.
Under Ziglar's Wheel, he also provides seven of his own steps to create actionable goals.
#3. Ensure Passion
Without passion, whatever goal you set for yourself is going to fall through. If you don't feel the need to lose 20 pounds, then working out will be a chore and a waste of your time.
Only set goals for yourself that you truly want to achieve. You’ll know when you want to truly take action because you’ll be excited every time you take action towards your desired result.
Along with tasking out your goals, tools such as journaling and vision boards can be extremely helpful in creating the lifestyle you have always wanted. This is what we will be tackling on the next podcast.
While you are waiting to continue your lifestyle freedom journey, feel free to visit my website because you are in for a treat at the end of November, I am running the "How to Plan Your Ideal Freedom Year Workshop". It's the 3rd year that I am running this and I absolutely adore doing it.
It’s a 90 minute DOING workshop. So if you want to find out more details about that, head to nataliesisson.com/workshop. And the most genius part about it is even if you can’t come along live, after it I get it split out into a mini course that you will always be able to refer back to and look at.
So if you want to enter 2018 like a rockstar, I think it’s probably going to be a pretty awesome deal for you.
Tune into the next episode where we are going to be talking about the lifestyle freedom journey and continuing on with what we've been doing in Season 4.
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Sat, 18 November 2017
In the previous episode, we discussed two major emotions that can hold you back from living out your ideal lifestyle.
Now that you’re prepared for what is to come, we need to discuss the most important question you will encounter along the journey to lifestyle freedom.
What is important to me?!
It’s both extremely simple and extremely complicated. We all seem to know some of the things that are important to us such as maintaining our fitness and cultivating meaningful relationships.
However, very few of us have actually explored some of the most basic human needs and figured out the type of actions we need to take in order to thrive in those aspects of life.
Today, this is what we’ll be discovering together.
Discovering Your Ideal Lifestyle:
Imagine that you’ve woken up one day with the ability to do absolutely whatever you wanted. You have no monetary restrictions, all of your friends and family are ready to join you in your adventures at a moment’s notice, and you are able to travel anywhere with ease.
What would you do?
It’s a difficult question to answer. You may not be able to answer that question because you have never considered lifestyle freedom a possibility before.
Since we were born, we have been surrounded by societal trends such as 40-hour workweeks, flawless bodies that require extensive gym visits, and family lives that are more stressful than fulfilling.
Here’s the truth: It doesn’t have to be this way!
In life, you are your own boss. You control what you do, how you go about it, when you do it, where you do it, and who you do it with.
You may be thinking, Natalie, I do have monetary restrictions and other things holding me back from living my ideal lifestyle!
I understand you completely.
While you may not be able to sit down right now, map out the rest of your life, and make it happen by snapping your fingers, you do have the opportunity to make the choice to start moving into a place of freedom.
Make that choice right here and right now. Take the leap with me and begin your journey to a life of freedom by figuring out what it is that you truly want.
Step 1: Dream, Dream, Dream
Remember the question I asked you earlier about your ideal day? I want you to answer it right now. Most importantly, I need you to answer it as specifically as you possibly can.
For example, this is how I envision my perfect day:
"I wake up in the morning with no alarm and no phone next to my bed and I wake up naturally. I turn to my lover Mr. Josh and I give him lots of kisses, hugs and cuddles. And then little Kayla, who is not so little anymore comes around my side of the bed in for a cuddle, who just snuffles her nose into my hand and I just love, love, love my little white German Shepherd to death.
And then I roll out of bed and I roll out the yoga mat and I will do about 20-30 minutes of yoga with Adriene. I recently did a Facebook live about her and I think she is fabulous. She has a free Youtube channel called Yoga with Adriene. I just love her yoga. She’s funny, she’s joyous, she’s grateful and she doesn’t take life too seriously and it’s just a pleasure to do yoga with her.
And then I will roll into anywhere from a 5-15 or 20 minute meditation. I’m working my way up into doing more of that and by this stage by the way, before I’ve started my yoga I’ve thrown open the curtains and right outside our windows this gorgeous creamy white rose which is just in full bloom right now. So it’s the first thing that I see in the morning with the sunlight coming up and all the trees and the gorgeous greenery around our lawn and over to the hills in the distance. So it’s a pretty spectacular way to start the morning and given that it’s spring here right now, the sun is already shining on me. So when I’m on my yoga mat I’m getting heated up by the warmth of the sun.
And then I have a lovely hot shower which I am so grateful for. And I go through to the kitchen and typically make breakfast with Josh and either do a green smoothie with something really awesome from my garden like kale or spinach and then strawberries, blueberries, banana and coconut water or I go and grab the fresh eggs from our chicken and I make omelets or scrambled eggs or poached eggs with avocado and smoked salmon or bacon because breakfast is my favorite meal of the day.
And then and only then, do I actually head over to my laptop and I either set up in the lounge or in the study or out in the coworking barn and I start working in my most important action of the day which I have typically written up the night before or in that moment into our project life spreadsheet and we always try and balance this out across the week between the 8 sort of areas of life that are really important."
So that’s just the start of my Perfect Day and I am living it right now which is pretty fantastic.
I want you to be able to describe the type of room that you are waking up in. I want you to be able to describe the food that you are eating throughout the day. I need you to be able to envision the exact temperature on the thermostat of the home you are living in.
Why am I asking you to be able to state the exact temperature of your house? While it may not seem important, specificity is key to designing your ideal lifestyle.
In fact, one study conducted by Gary Latham and Edwin Locke found that 90 percent of people who set challenging, specific goals were able to actually meet them rather than those who had simple goals with no direction.
No matter how silly it may seem, think about every possible angle of your perfect day and write it down. You may not need every detail but you will be better prepared for the next step.
Step 2: Determine What Matters Most
Now that you have a better idea of what you would like to be doing with your time, take a look at your list and go through the 5 W’s:
Who- Who was it that you wanted to spend your time with? Did you list your spouse during your perfect day vision? Did some of your old friends crop up while you were daydreaming? Review your notes and come up with a list of the people who appeared most.
What- What were you doing during your ideal day? Were you working from home rather than in an office? Were you working out in your own yoga studio? These actions will help you to identify some of the major areas that you want to focus on in the future.
When- When were you the most active? On the other hand, when were you experiencing the most relaxation? You may find out that you are currently working when you want to be relaxing and relaxing when you are most energetic.
Where- Did you travel? What type of house were you in? What did nature outside of your living area look like? As the saying goes, “if you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree.” You may not be happy with where you are currently living and this daydream session will tell you exactly that.
Why- Why are you doing the things that you are doing? If this is your perfect day, you must care about the actions you are taking. Evaluate each action you have written down and ask yourself whether or not you care about the thing you are doing, if it adds value to your life, and if it helps you get towards where you want to be.
Make sure that you have done this thoroughly. Each category helps you to better determine what you will be working towards once you’ve decided to live a life of freedom.
Step 3: Come Up With a Rough Life Sketch
Take what you’ve collected over the past few steps and compile it into a rough plan.
For example, let’s pretend that I’ve come up with my own life vision where I am living in France, running my own clothing business during the day from my large, well-lit apartment, and spending the majority of my time with my friends during the night.
Although this a brief example, I’ve identified who I want to spend my time with, where I want to be, when I want to be doing things, and what I am doing with my time. Why am I doing this?
Clearly, I’ve crafted this plan because I truly want to live in France, I love the idea of running a clothing business from home, and I want to be spending my time with friends who care about me.
This is by no means a list that will help you to reach said goals and lead a free life. Instead, this is the foundation upon which you will build your ideal life.
In episode 3, we will be discussing how to categorize and task out these goals in order to assure complete domination over your ideal lifestyle.
And if this is kind of opening your mind up to the possibilities of what you really want to be doing with your life but you don’t feel like you are close to that or if you are actually just wanting to rock out 2018 then you are in for a treat because on November 29th, I am running a LIVE online workshop called “Plan Your Ideal Freedom Year!”.
I will personally walk you through my step by step process to have your ideal year, including how to:
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Wed, 8 November 2017
To date on the Quest for Freedom Podcast I’ve covered off on
Season 1: Personal freedom (mindfulness, meditation and happiness)
And now we come to
Season 4: Lifestyle Freedom (goals and ambition vs lifestyle by design)
Why are you living the lifestyle you're living?
If you could wake up tomorrow and do anything you want, would you be doing what you're doing?
I want to talk about how you spend your days, how you spend your time. Are you're doing things because you feel you have to rather than because you want to?
Are you spending your day filled with social media and checking in on things because it makes you feel popular, connected or makes you feel like you're being productive , or is it filled with finishing up work projects because you feel some sense of duty to complete them, even if they’re not a priority?
When I asked myself this question the other day, the one about “What would you do if money wasn’t an issue?” I realised two things:
1) I was living the dream and wouldn’t be anywhere else than our beautiful property we’ve been in for just over six months. In fact I was so content in this new life, that I have even eased back on my goals and ambitions as a result.
2). I want to be doing NOTHING related to what I’m currently doing work wise, well almost. I simply wanted to be on the property, soaking in the birds, nature and beautiful garden. Spending time with Kayla, walking her along the many beautiful, peaceful trails and mountains.
I wanted to be reading more books, painting more art and enjoying the sunshine and blue skies. I wanted to be writing, meditating, exercising learning and everything around personal growth…not teaching business.
What do you see? Are your days filled with activities that help you grow as an individual and bring you happiness?
If so, congratulations. You’ve already unlocked the key to living the freedom lifestyle.
If you’re one of the people who are feeling unfulfilled and unhappy with your lifestyle, however, we are going to discuss two of the major emotional roadblocks that prevent you from living a life that allows you to move through life with more freedom.
#1. The first major emotional roadblock that we encounter on paving our way to freedom is GUILT.
Guilt manifests itself when we begin taking a look at our day-to-day schedule and figuring out what we need to get rid of in order to feel happier and more free.
There are always things that we tend to do simply because society and or people that we care about expect us to.
Like attending meetings, going to work, attending birthday events or family dinners, making dinner for our family, putting everyone before our own needs.
If we continue to hang onto these activities for these reasons, we will never be able to achieve true lifestyle freedom. How can we eliminate guilt from our lives?
According to clinical psychologist Ali Mattu, there are several actionable steps that we can take to eliminate guilt from our lives:
#1. Facing Your Guilt Head-on.
Like any emotion, we have to evaluate and understand our guilt before we are able to take action on moving on from it.
Sit down and look at the events in your day that you will feel guilty ridding of. Figure out where that guilt is coming from and confront it.
#2. Find Someone to Confide in.
Talking out your feelings always help you to better work through them and gives you another perspective that helps you approach the situation. Look for someone who is wise and who you trust to talk about this guilt that you have.
#3. Give Yourself Compassion.
Guilt is something that we need to let go of immediately. Recognize your guilt, remind yourself that it is okay to feel guilty but that it holds you back from becoming your true self, and move on.
Once you’ve let go of your guilt, you will be able to let go of the things in your life that do not provide you with freedom and happiness.
#2. The second major emotional roadblock that we encounter is FEAR.
While guilt prevents us from letting go of things that no longer serve us, fear prevents us from taking action on things that we know are beneficial for us.
We refuse to do the things we want because the outcome may be uncertain and the changes in our lifestyle will create complications for us.
Rather than listening to that timid voice inside of you telling you that you shouldn’t or can’t pursue what you want, here are some ways that you can overcome your fears:
#1. Figure out what it is that has you scared and analyze it
Much like the previous tips I mentioned to help you get rid of your guilt, you will have to figure out what is scaring you in order to overcome your fears.
For example, let’s imagine that you want to add more self-care time to your day. In order to do this, you may have to lessen the amount of hours you are working and that may be scary for people who feel the need to work.
Identifying your fear of not working and the issues that come along with not working is absolutely necessary.
#2. Work towards minimizing your fear.
You don’t have to immediately start working less hours in order to face your fears. Dip your toe in the water and see the results that come out of your actions.
Start working 10 minutes less than you currently are. Has the world ended?
Has your income increased dramatically? It probably hasn’t just yet.
But as you continue to reduce your hours and therefore focus more on revenue generating activities, you’ll soon see that you’re working less and earning more.
Taking this type of small action will show you that your goal is possible.
#3. Don’t fully invest yourself in the beginning.
Encountering your fear fully in the beginning can actually be harmful and counterproductive.
It’s smarter to take small, actionable steps towards overcoming your fear and reaching your goals.
Control over your emotions is necessary if you intend on cultivating lifestyle freedom.
Changes in life often bring a wave of emotions that either catapult us toward our intended destination or drown us in our own self-doubt and hesitation.
You may recall in an earlier episode I talked about how too many changes are dangerous, which I found out the hard way when I flipped my life 180 degrees in a very short amount of time.
But I worked through the highs and lows, pushed through my fears and have come out the other side stronger and more energized than ever, with a new personal brand and mission - to help you achieve more personal daily freedom.
With these tips, you will be able to overcome these strong feelings and find out what is truly best for you.
However, this is only half the battle.
In order to experience these emotions, you will first have to have an idea of what you want to be doing with your time.
In the next episode, we will explore some actions that you can take to discover your ideal lifestyle.
I have run this for the last two years running and people love it, because in less than 3 hours we map out your entire year ahead, both personally and professionally.
We also look at your goals and dive into your content, editorial and marketing calendar for the next 12 months (if you have an online or offline business).
Then we look at your personal daily schedule to set you up for happiness, success and freedom.
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